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Best Natural Ways to Delay Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation, or ejaculating before you or your wife want you to, is a common problem that strikes most men at some point in their lives.

Several factors can influence when ejaculation occurs, but it can be controlled with some forethought or, in extreme cases, with medical intervention. Here are some strategies to help you get over premature ejaculation and improve your sexual stamina.

Sometimes we do not have any medical condition, this just happens. For quick fixes I suggest you just wear a condom or two together at the same time as the case may require. It sounds too simple to be true, but it works for a lot of men.

The most natural is to apply strategic pressure; with a little anatomy knowledge you can delay an oncoming ejaculation by applying pressure to one of two spots.

First is pressing on the perineum. This is a spot midway between your scrotum and your anus, and firm pressure will help to stop ejaculation because this spot reaches through to the prostate gland. It is the prostate that contracts and expands during orgasm and then expels the ejaculation fluid.

If you find it difficult to do just make sure you are very clean down there and thereafter ask your wife to assist in applying this loving pressure for you.

The testes tug: When a man is so close to orgasm, his scrotum rises up closer to his body. You can delay ejaculation by gently pulling your testes down and away from your body. To make it more romantic and passionate, train your wife to do this for you.

Another natural way is to do all you can to reduce anxiety. For many husbands an extreme eagerness to impress their wives, coupled with anxiety and pressure to perform, has been a major contributor to premature ejaculation.

Relax and remember that your wife probably cares about you and all you represent in her life more than the timing of your orgasms, and that premature ejaculation doesn’t mean you can’t still be good in bed.

Don’t start off sex with orgasm in focus; take climaxing out of your expectations. Instead of viewing intercourse only as a means of achieving orgasm, reframe it as a relaxing, pleasurable time with your wife and a time of bonding that you can enjoy regardless of ejaculation.

For effectiveness take time out and discuss this new mindset with your wife, so she can stop pressuring you, intentionally or un-intentionally. Then while in the very act of sex do all you can to think non-sexual thoughts. If you notice yourself getting too excited, turn your thoughts to something distant, abstract and unsexy, such as math, rush hour traffic or a football match.

Only dwell on it long enough to give yourself a short break from arousal, maybe five to 10 seconds, and then refocus your attention on your wife and the action of sex. Avoid thinking of a topic that is going to make you stressed or cause you to lose your arousal entirely. Thoughts such as the payment of the children’s school fees, Nigeria’s erratic electricity supply or some mood-killer thoughts.

Now, proceed further and try edging. Edging, or orgasm control, is the practice of maintaining a high level of sexual arousal while delaying ejaculation. It takes practice, but it gets easier over time.

Here are two methods recommended to stop premature ejaculation. Stop-and-start method: Have intercourse as usual until you feel yourself coming uncomfortably close to orgasm. Immediately and abruptly cease all stimulation for 30 seconds, and then start again. Repeat this pattern until you’re ready to ejaculate.

Squeeze method: Have intercourse as usual until you feel like orgasm is seconds away. Abruptly stop other stimulation and gently muscle is strong enough, you should be able to hold it off just like stopping flow when urinating. Practice controlling your orgasm. When you are with your wife, focus on improving your control over your climax. Stimulate yourself to the edge of climax and then stop.

Do this several times before finishing. As you practice, learn to recognize the feeling of getting close to orgasm, and take note of how close you can get and still effectively stop, and when you’ve reached a “point of no return.” During intercourse, use that knowledge to slow down or adjust your movements if you get too close too early.

Condoms reduce stimulation for most men, which should prolong the time before ejaculation. But while looking for a condom to buy steer clear of condoms that are marketed as extra thin, instead get a brand that allows more stimulation later.

Some condoms are coated with a slight numbing gel on the inside. This can help you put off ejaculation for longer without causing numbness to your wife. (Just make sure you know which side is where when you put it on).

Use an analgesic cream or spray. There are two classes of these products. The first is the traditional “numbing” creams and sprays that have been on the market for some time. The advantage is that you’ll feel less sensation, which will delay ejaculation. While the disadvantage is that your wife may suffer a loss of sensation as well and of course less sensitive intercourse is not always an appealing notion, even in these circumstances.

There is a new class of topical herbs that absorb into the skin to deliver a mild anaesthetic to the sensory nerves below the top layer of skin of the penis. This allows men to have ejaculatory control but with less loss of sexual sensation, and reduces the transference to their wives.

If you routinely ejaculate less than a minute and a half after beginning vaginal intercourse, and none of the above fixes have worked, it might be time to see a sex therapist.


Whenever I am naked in the presence of my husband I feel I am not sexually attractive to him anymore. He does not stare or move towards me as he used to when we were newly married. Then, whenever I am naked he wanted sex, but now I wonder what goes on in his mind when we make love. Is he tolerating my sagged breast and protruded tummy with stretch marks, or is he really making love to me because he has to or what? I don’t enjoy sex when this goes on in my mind and because of this I cover up my nakedness.

When it comes to body image and confidence, ladies tend to be their own worst enemies as regards their flaws. You may find it difficult to believe but a good number of husbands are not really thinking about those stretch marks, sagged breast or those extra pounds. Men are much less observant of our perceived flaws than we think. In fact, “they wouldn’t notice a C-section scar or stretch mark if we didn’t bring them up. Men are turned on by the confidence we display during sex, so instead of worrying over nothing why not flaunt the parts you’re proud of? The minute you take off your clothes, your husband is concentrating on one thing: you (and maybe what he wants to do to you.) In general, men can think about only one thing at a time, so when you’re naked, he’s not worrying about any other thing but the business of sex. Because men are visual creatures I will suggest you disrobe as often as you can. Once you disrobe, there may be something unexpected on your man’s mind; not being able to see your body takes away from his pleasure. Seeing all of each other nakedness is an important part of the sexual experience. If you’re not comfortable under bright lights, I suggest dimming them or lighting a few candles so there’s some visibility. Many wives often complain that their husbands don’t think of them enough. If you’re concerned about this, maybe you should get naked! You’ll definitely be on his mind then.


I work in the banking sector and hardly have time for my husband. Sex is almost a forgotten thing in our home. We hardly talk about it and I sense that my husband may be satisfying himself through other means. I know if anything happens I am to be blamed and before then I want to make things right. If I can’t make love every day, what are the best times to have sex?

Timing is important and crucial when it comes to sex. The top time is when you and your husband are likely out of the office. When you have no work pressures and are spending many hours with your mate, it’s easier to have luxurious, unhurried sex that lasts and lasts, a slow build-up is key. Flirt with your husband in the morning by whispering in his ear and then make lots of eye contact with him during meals. As you would likely notice, men often wake up with erections so instead of making him wait all day, set your alarm for 20 minutes earlier on a work day and have a quickie first thing in the morning. You might enjoy it more, too. As women age, they tend to get more tired at night, so evening sex may be less desirable. You have more energy for morning sex. One of the best times you’re most likely to experience a mind-bending orgasm is actually the day before you get your period. This is when blood accumulation makes your uterus heavy, and contractions are more perceptible during orgasm, and your labial and clitoral tissue tends to be more sensitive when you retain fluids. Even if you’re feeling grouchy and uncomfortable, give sex a consideration at such times you will be glad you did. Besides, making love while you’re on your period can actually reduce uncomfortable cramps. It may be because an orgasm causes uterine contractions which ease pain and your body releases the hormone oxytocin and the neurotransmitter dopamine, which make you feel happy and relaxed. Plan an unforgettable evening out: being outdoors means you’ve already left your comfort zone, so you may be more likely to think outside the box.

Plan to Shave your Pubic hair and Have Sex same week? You Must Read This First!!!

When it comes to personal hygiene, one major aspect that has been trailed by diverse reactions is the issue of keeping or doing away with pubic hair, the hair that grows in the frontal genital area of humans, located on and around the sex organs of both male and female.

To some, nothing else nauseates like seeing hair in their partner’s private part, while some people are delighted by it as the sight of it is even a major turn-on for them, and to some others, it really does not matter whether the hair is kept intact or not.

To Mr. Johnson Agbede, a lecturer in his mid 50s, there are a few other things that are as disgusting as seeing a hairy private part. “You know how it feels when you see thick (sometimes colored) hair in someone’s armpit? That is the way I feel when I imagine anyone keeping his or her pubic hair. My wife knows and she dares not keep it. I don’t keep mine too and I make sure I shave every Saturday,” he added.

Agbede, who is a father of three, said he believes the hair should never be allowed to grow because, according to him, it tends to harbour dirt and cause body odor over time. “Keeping it just does not make sense. For what purpose?” he queried.

But just as much as Agbede despises pubic hair, Mrs. Taiwo Peters, a business woman and mother of two, says she sees nothing wrong with keeping the hair in that region “as long as it is kept clean.” Perhaps, her stance is also informed by her husband’s preference for keeping it intact.

My husband tells me that seeing it turns him on and that the moment I shave it, I would be on my own. I could trim it mildly but not absolute removal. For him too, he doesn’t shave but he could trim it when it is becoming too bushy.”

Interestingly, those who support it say getting rid of the hair makes them feel clean and fresh while those against it say it does not allow for friction during sex and that leaving it is not harmful in any way. Thus, the argument keeps going back and forth. Findings however revealed that most people shave their pubic hair and their reasons differ.

Notably, the methods people use to get rid of the pubic hair include shaving (with the use of razor, clipper or scissors), creaming and waxing, which is a form of semi-permanent hair removal which removes the hair from the root before new hair starts to grow back in the area between four and six weeks.

But according to some experts, pubic hair should not be shaved; rather, it should be left as it grows because of the roles it plays as a cover that shields the organs from avoidable infections and friction. They noted that shaving could open up the skin for pathogens bacteria and viruses, thereby increasing the spread of sexually transmitted infections, skin irritation and other skin infections, like Molluscum contagiosum.

In addition, they said the removal of the hair could increase the risk of genital skin infections because small cuts or scratches occasioned by the removal of the hair could open the door for viruses to cause infections.

Even though the situation applies to both men and women, a study published on the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology found that about 60 per cent of women who shave their pubic hair were found to have at least one health complication, and the most common health challenges found were epidermal abrasion (a wound caused by superficial damage to the skin) and ingrown hairs.

The study revealed further that women who are obese are almost twice as likely to report a complication and almost three times as likely if they have total hair removal.

A consultant gynaecologist, Hugh Byrne, told United Kingdom Telegraph that the removal of pubic hair could lead to abscess, a swollen area within body tissue containing an accumulation of pus. He explained that an increase in abscesses as reported had been caused by bacteria that enter the body through the hair follicle that was left open. He however said the solution to such infection could be through the use of antibiotics or an operation.

According to a review of some studies on Journal of American Medical Association, published on Mail Online, the act of removing pubic hair could cause a deficit in the mucous membrane of the skin, which could allow viruses or bacteria to enter the body.

Waxing causes deficit in the mucocutaneous barrier that may be sufficient for viral entry and transmission, potentially increasing the risk of acquiring STIs,” the report said.

The report added that waxing as a form of removing pubic hair does not only increase the risk of contracting STI, it also causes small injuries to the skin, the underlying structures, micro tearing of muscle fibres, the sheath around the muscle and the connective tissue. This in turn could lead to spread of infection, burns, bumps that form under the surface of the skin and folliculitis, which is an inflammation of the hair follicles.

It noted, “Pubic hair waxing can also cause burns, with most being superficial or partial-thickness burns, while bacteria including staphylococcus aureus, streptococcus pyogenes and pseudomonas aeruginosa were found to be among the infections people are at risk of contracting. They can be transmitted via contaminated waxing tools or from the person performing the procedure.

“Individuals who wax their pubic hair should be informed of this possible risk and perhaps be advised to abstain from sexual activity for a certain period of time after waxing.”

A gynaecologist, Dr. Olanrewaju Ekujumi, told Saturday PUNCH that when one shaves newly, the risk of transmitting skin infections to each other is high during sexual intercourse.

He said, “When you shave, there tends to be opening where the hair has been removed, it could be an avenue for organisms to penetrate and cause infections. So, when you shave, maybe you should avoid sex, even though it has also not been medically proven, theoretically, it is a possibility.”

Ekujumi explained further that even though some people feel very happy and comfortable when everything is nicely shaved, leaving the pubic hair unshaved has no negative effect on the body. He noted that the hair itself is a protective covering, such that before anything gets into the body through those areas, it would have overcome the hair first.

In gynaecology, shaving has no medical implication, apart from the bumps and other things that could come with shaving or waxing. However, when someone shaves and the partner does not, if the person who shaves has coarse hair, it could irritate the person who does not shave,” he said.

When asked whether it is advisable to shave or not, he said it depends on what individuals want, but that instead of shaving, people could use scissors to trim the hair so as not to open up the skin.

According to a dermatologist, Dr. Funmilayo Ajose, there is no problem shaving or not shaving, but she suggested that those who wish to shave should do it correctly to avoid infections. However, she said people who have rashes when they shave their beards or legs should not venture into shaving pubic hair. Reason? She said rashes also tend to come up there and that it could be multiplied in the pubic area because the place is warm and germs and bacteria could rapidly multiply there.

She continued, “Some people’s pubic hair can be so strong that it can cause friction for their partner. So, it should be done in a way that it would not be prone to infection or irritation and ensure it does not have a sharp end that could make it a problem instead of being a solution. If in the process of shaving, the hair curls back and pricks the skin, it could introduce the germs that are outside the skin into the skin.

However, there are non-irritant shaving chemicals that can remove the hair smoothly, but there is no harm leaving it and there is no harm shaving it.”

She explained that leaving the pubic hair does not lead to odour and shaving it does not reduce it, saying it depends on people’s personal hygiene.

Lassa Fever Alert: Cross River government warns Residents against ‘Drinking Garri’

Amid fears of a Lassa fever outbreak, the Cross River government in Nigeria has warned residents of the state against drinking “Garri’, a staple made from Cassava, for now.

Inyang Asibong, the Commissioner for Health, gave the warning on Monday in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Calabar.

Mr. Asibong, who restated that Lassa fever was a hemorrhagic fever transmitted from rats to humans, said the warning became imperative as the causative agents, rats, may have urinated or defecated on the garri during preservation by different handlers.

She noted that because of poor storage rats easily had access to the food item.

Mr. Asibong disclosed that the government had distributed anti-viral drugs to 1,031 community health centres across the 18 local government areas of the state to check the imminent outbreak of Lassa fever.

According to Mr. Asibong, the anti-viral drugs, “Ribavirin” is distributed in line with the sensitisation campaign carried out in 1,500 communities across the state.

The commissioner, who said the state government was concentrating on enlightenment on the dangers of the disease, appealed to the people to promote “good personal hygiene”.

We have distributed Lassa fever drugs to 1,031 community health centres in the state and we have equipped all the centres adequately.

“The Cross River Government is concerned about the health of the people, and that is why we are doing everything possible to ensure that we keep the disease out of the state.

“Members of the public should promote good community and personal hygiene by keeping their environment clean,’’ she told NAN, expressing gratitude to God that the state has not recorded a case.

“Covering of foods and other consumable items as well as washing their hands regularly with soap and water is highly advisable.

“We are grateful to God that we have not had any case of Lassa fever in Cross River, we are aware of the outbreak in some states in Nigeria.’’

“The state government is ready to collaborate with the World Health Organisation and other relevant agencies to provide adequate anti-viral drugs in the state’’, she said.

She advised health workers to adhere strictly to universal precautions when caring for patients with suspected or confirmed with Lassa fever.

The commissioner also advised members of the public to store their food and grains in areas where rodents could not have access to eat and urinate on them.


Nigeria: Lassa Fever outbreak: 10 states infected; 41 lives lost – FG

The federal government says Lassa fever has claimed 41 lives from 93 reported cases in 10 states of the country.

The federal government on Friday put the death toll at 40 out of 86 reported cases of Lassa fever outbreak in same 10 states. The number of the suspected cases also rose from 86 last week to 93. The Minister of Health, Isaac Adewole, confirmed this in Abuja on Tuesday at a joint ministerial news conference on the update of the outbreak of the disease.

From Left: Executive Director, National Primary Health Care Development Agency, Dr Ado Muhammed; Director-General, National Orientation Agency, Mr Mike Omeri; Minister of State for Health, Dr Osagie Ehanire; Minister of Health, Prof. Isaac Adewole, and Minister of Information And Culture, Alhaji Lai Mohammed, during a Joint Ministerial News Conference to give update on the outbreak of Lassa Fever in Nigeria

However, Mr. Adewole said there were no new confirmed cases or deaths in the last 48 hours.He did not disclose the states from where another life was lost.

In the last 48 hours, the government raised a four-man expert committee, chaired by Professor Michael Asuzu, to visit Kano, Niger and Bauchi, the three most endemic states.

“The committee will embark on a fact finding mission, assess the current situation, document response experiences, identify gaps and proffer recommendations on how to prevent future occurrences,” Mr. Adewole, a professor, said.

The minister assured the public the task of the committee was not to apportion blame but rather to document lessons learnt for better planning of an affective responsive.

According to Mr. Adewole, part of the long term response is to establish an inter-ministerial committee to deliver a final blow on Lassa fever and other related diseases.

The committee comprises the ministers of Education, Agriculture and Natural Resources, Environment, Information and Culture as well as Health.

Mr. Adewole advised communities to improve on their hygiene, including food hygiene and food protection practices.

He also urged the public to avoid contact with rodents as well as food contaminated with rat’s secretions and excretions.

Avoid drying food in the open and along roadsides. It is also important to cover all foods to prevent rodent contamination,” he said.

The minister said affected states had been advised to intensify awareness creation on the signs and symptoms of the disease.

According to him, the affected states are Bauchi, Nasarawa, Niger, Taraba, Kano, Rivers, Edo, Plateau, Gombe and Oyo.

The public is hereby assured that government and other stakeholders are working tirelessly to address the outbreak and bring it to timely end,” said the minister.

He said the ministry had ordered for the immediate release of adequate quantities of “ribavirin”, the specific antiviral drug for Lassa fever, to the affected states for prompt treatment of cases.

Mr. Adewole said Nigeria had the capability to diagnose Lassa fever, adding that “all the cases reported so far were confirmed by our laboratories”.

The first case of the current outbreak was reported from Bauchi in November 2015.